Mommin’ Ain’t Easy

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“I will lead them down a new path, guiding them along an unfamiliar way. I will brighten the darkness before them and smooth out the road ahead of them. Yes, I will indeed do these things; I will not forsake them.” – Isaiah‬ ‭42:16‬

I will be the first mom to say that mommin’ ain’t easy. I have been blessed to be able to be a step mom for almost three years and now have the privilege of raising one of my own as well. Both roles are difficult in different ways but both are beautiful as well. They don’t tell you about the difficult times and the sleepless nights. Maybe they do but in your mind you imagine different. They don’t tell you about being so worried about either of them or praying for their future. They don’t tell you how deeply and completely your heart will belong to them.

If there is one thing I’ve learned these last three years and these last two weeks, it’s that being a mom should be hard because being a mom means sacrifice. It means giving when you are empty. Loving when you are hurt. Praying when you don’t know what to say. And hoping that through it all you can be a light in the darkness and a refuge from the storms in this world. God has reminded me that it is a blessing to be walked out with Him. Time with Him is crucial to not lose your sanity and patience. Prayer is our biggest weapon against the enemy and love covers all.

So while there are many days I have cried over these last few years, there are many prayers that have been answered. God continues to guide and show me how to walk along this mom path. Sometimes it’s beautiful and sometimes it’s just really hard. But at all times, He is God and He is with us. He gives us the strength we need for each day if we let Him.

I’m Not SuperMom

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Recently, I was catching up with a friend, sharing all of the changes to my life (I had several in a few short weeks). She looked at me and said, “Wow, you’re like SuperMom.”

I laughed and casually dismissed the remark.

You see, I have this awesome friend. She has more kids than I can even comprehend caring for on a daily basis. She cooks, she homeschools, she runs them to the various appointments they have throughout the week. She is #momgoals. If anyone is SuperMom, she is. She will of course deny it, saying something along the lines of, “I’m actually just crazy.” But you see, she isn’t SuperMom either. Not really. Because for SuperMom everything is easy. What an incredibly impossible standard to live up to. I’m so glad I don’t have to be SuperMom, and I’m sure she is too. Just being Mom is hard enough, saying ‘yes’ again and again when asked to stretch beyond yourself.

So the next time you see a mom (or anyone for that matter) handling life in a way you can’t imagine, encourage her, but don’t brush it off as being “super”. Know that she’s probably exhausted. She has days that she’s not sure she’ll make it through. And sometimes she just cries because life is HARD. Instead, ask her how you can pray for her and what she needs. Offer to bring her dinner, watch her kids or run an errand. Because I promise you, she’s not “super” on her own.