Mother’s Day is still a couple weeks away, but I’ve been contemplating the concept of motherhood. Between a few thoughtless comments made by other mothers and my two boys being moved to more permanent homes, I was feeling less than confident in my identity as a mother. Continue reading “To The Invisible Moms”
Being a parent can be tough. Being a stepparent, adopted parent or foster parent can be even more difficult. Some people don’t understand when a stepparent and child are close, and that’s ok. Not everyone needs to understand because the life of a stepparent, or foster parent, wasn’t meant for everyone. But if you know someone who is one and they are doing their best to love, support and help raise a child that’s not their own…don’t judge or ridicule them. Don’t talk about them. Just love them. Encourage them. Because chances are, they are giving a whole lot of themselves to love a child that isn’t theirs. Continue reading “For The Unseen Warriors”
A few months before my 25th birthday my dad died. It was hard, and I got through it. But one of the things that stood out to me was my cousin praising my mother and I for our strength, stating “I could never do that.”
Recently I have watched a friend going through something similar with her husband, and I’ve been hearing it again, “I could never do that,” referring to her personal strength. Over and over again I hear that phrase attached to grace in the face of tragedy. What you really mean is, “I would never choose that.” You can’t imagine how you would handle it because, honestly, you don’t want to think about something like that happening to your family.
As I’ve researched foster care, particularly fostering as a single mom, I’ve found the theme of people who won’t understand. The ones who think I’m well-meaning but unwise. The ones who don’t understand my motivation or just can’t wrap their head around the concept at all. So, I decided to answer all the awkward questions that nobody wants to ask. To answer the things that have been in the back of your mind or perhaps that you had never thought of. Continue reading “Answering The Unasked Questions”